Double Life

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This was one of the topics that was discussed in a Filipino Book Bloggers meet up and is a question that I asked fellow book bloggers. Don’t you ever feel like you have two lives – your blogging life and your real life? Blogging life consists of your book blog, of course, and your interactions with people in the blogosphere through blog comments, Twitter, Goodreads and other social networking sites. I can also use social networks as examples – like Twitter is more for your blog friends because you can also follow authors and publishers there while Facebook is more for your real life friends because you post pictures and write in each other’s walls.

You have to admit that blogging takes time and effort and it’s the kind of thing that not a lot of real life friends understand. How many of your real life friends and family actually read and appreciate your blog? And how many blog friends do you have that you never would’ve met if you didn’t have a blog? I’ve mentioned this before – one of the reasons why I enjoy blogging is because I’ve found bogging buddies who love the same kind of books that I do and can totally understand when I gush about certain books or authors. My friends listen to me when I do that but not a lot of them read the books that I do.

Now that the Filipino book blogging community is being more active and more book-related activities like meet ups appear on my social calendar, I feel like my two lives are intersecting. Also, I’ve noticed that ever since I started the blog, more and more of my friends are asking me for recommendations. They’re more likely to pick up books now than before and I’d like to think that’s partly due to my influence.

Sorry for the totally random rambling but I just wanted to get this out there and to ask the rest of you if you feel the same way too. Do you feel like your life has two aspects – blogging/reading and real life? If yes, how does one affect the other? Let me know your thoughts!

24 thoughts on “Double Life

  1. I think I’ve been blogging for so long that my friends who are not bloggers are so used to me doing that so it’s become a part of my life and how they know me already. Back in high school it was a double life. But now that we’ve grown up, it’s just a part of me that even my friends talk about or tell other people about when they introduce me to their friends. I guess I’m lucky that way. They may not be as big of a reader as I am, but they know that reading and blogging (and writing as a whole) is a part of me already.

    Oh, and my family knows about my blogging too, but I know only my dad reads my blog. ^^ I don’t think my mom has the patience to read through all my ramblings! πŸ™‚

    • Back in college, most of my friends used to blog on LJ and then Multiply and Facebook came along. I believe most of my friends know that I have a book blog but they’re not really sure what kinds of books I read. I’d be surprised if they know that I love fantasy and YA.

      Like you, I think most of my family and friends acknowledge that reading is a big part of my life. They just don’t read my blog. πŸ™‚

    • But yours is a personal blog, right? I was thinking along the lines of niche blogs and how blogging about a niche category enables you to have an online life that’s different from your personal life.

      Although what you said is right, you can’t ever really blog about everything that happens in your life.

  2. Very few people know about my blogging life so yes, to an extent it IS like having a double life xD although blogging has actually made me more social offline–I attend a lot more bookish events and I’m always going into bookstores and chatting about people (to recommend books or to have recommendations come my way). Blogging’s been more positive than negative in my case πŸ™‚

    • I know what you mean, I feel like I’ve attended more book-related things in the past few months that in my whole reading life. I used to think there aren’t that many book meet ups here in the Philippines and I was actually surprised to discover that there are a lot of Filipino book bloggers out there. Book people are generally friendly so I think it makes us less afraid to chat with strangers about books. πŸ™‚

  3. Both my friends and family know about my blog. Some of my friends who are readers comment from time to time as well. The best part is that they understand how much I love blogging – even when I would rather blog than spend time with them haha

    • It’s good that some of your friends comment on your blog from time to time. And it’s good that they know you love blogging. But I find it funny that you’d rather blog than spend time with them. πŸ˜›

  4. Cant really say that mine intersect that mich. Nowadays i spend more time traveling and/or meeting friends than i do with going to meetups, etc. Maybe when im free and/or if theres a conflict with my sched then i normally prioritiZe which event to go. Blogging does take A back seat most of the time but then again, thats just me πŸ™‚

    • Hey Ruby, I know what you mean, we all have different priorities. In my case, I don’t think I prioritize blogging over real life or vice versa. There are enough weekends for reading, blogging and going out with friends. πŸ™‚ I just noticed that I had two aspects of my life that rarely overlapped.

  5. yes i agree and absolutely know what you mean!

    no one in my real life reads my blog πŸ™‚ most ppl don’t even know i have one! or that i read as much YA fiction as i do πŸ™‚

    • Nomes, it’s sad that no one in your real life reads your blog because it’s awesome. This is why blog friends are important, they understand your passion for books when no one else does. πŸ™‚

  6. Well.. I told my family about my book blog and got something of a blank look and my brother pretty much said he was too busy to read it. A couple of my friends read the book blog, but most of the time they’re too busy too. Soooo… my book blogging life is pretty segregated from real life!

    • When I first told my friends and family about my blog, most of them said “I’m too lazy to read your blog because it has too many words.” LOL. I think most of us are in similar situations, people in our real lives seldom read our blogs.

  7. It definitely feels like I have two lives when it comes to Goodreads/my book blog vs everything else. With Goodreads and my blog is a totally different society in a way. There’s people who have the same amount of passion for books
    as I do,we sort of have our own lingo,our discussions revolve around books etc,. With everything else it’s sort of like traveling to different country if that makes any sense…lol. It’s hard to find others that have that passion for books.

    • Hey Ashley, I don’t have time to be active on Goodreads anymore and this makes me sad. 😦 I still cross-post my reviews over there but I don’t get check the forums anymore. I know what you mean, we all get excited when we find like-minded people and this is why we’re all so enthusiastic about our blogs and Goodreads.

  8. Interesting topic! I guess as a blogger I’m an anomaly because my real life overlapped with the blogosphere before I was a blogger myself. Most of my friends and family don’t read my blog but it’s so nice to have Angie and Michelle as real life friends as well. Just makes me want to meet more of my blogger friends in real life. πŸ™‚

    • Hmm I wonder if your being a librarian has something to do with that overlap? I mean you deal with books in real life so maybe that’s why you’re surrounded by other book lovers? πŸ™‚ Yes, it really is awesome that you, Angie and Michelle know each other in real life. I hope we get to meet each other in person in the future!

  9. How funny! I was just talking about this with the hubby and some of his co-workers yesterday. He always teasingly gives me a hard time for having ‘on-line friends’ but I’m okay with that. I only have a couple of ‘real’ friends that consistently read my blog but that’s okay. I think my mom might be one of those (mainly cause she’s my mom) but most people I hang out with don’t like the same stuff as me or read half as much as I do. But it doesn’t bother me. It’s just fun for me to meet so many awesome bloggers around the world (like you!).

    • It’s funny that your husband teases you about your online friends! Tell him that it’s like that for most of us. My mom doesn’t even read my blog. She just knows that I love reading but I don’t think she has an idea of the genres that I read. It really is fun to meet and interact with bloggers all over the world. Makes reading less of a lonely experience. πŸ™‚

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  11. For me there’s quite a lot of overlap. I used to be very active on Flickr (I’ve let that lapse a bit) and I made a lot of real-life friends through that, many of whom blog. Similarly, through Twitter I have arranged to meet local bloggers either to attend events or just to have coffee and chat. Obviously I also have a lot of friends who are bemused by the blogging thing but the closest ones to me at least follow my blog and ask me questions about it, which is really nice.

    • I used to be active on Flickr too! Back when I was new to lomography and I was so excited by it. I don’t even check my account nowadays. Casual meet ups with fellow bloggers sound like fun. πŸ™‚ I only started Filipino Book Bloggers last year so we’ve only had a couple of get togethers.

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